VICTIM:

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You are not a victim.

Victimization can be like a gray cloak that surrounds us, both
attracting that which will victimize us and causing us to generate
the feelings of victimization.

Victimization can be so habitual that we may feel victimized even
by the good things that happen to us!

Got a new car? Yes, we sigh, but it doesn't run as well as I expected,
and after all, it cost so much.

You've got such a nice family! Yes, we sigh, but there are problems.
And we've had such hard times.

If we set our mind to it, we have an incredible, almost awesome ability
to find misery in any situation.

We may have been victimized. We may have allowed ourselves to be
victimized. We may have sought out, created, or re-created situations
that victimized us. But we are not victims.

Set a boundary. Deal with the anger. Tell someone no, or stop that.
Walk away from a relationship. Ask for what you need. Make choices
and take responsibility for them.