ANGER:

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Feeling angry – and, sometimes, the act of blaming – is a natural
and necessary part of accepting loss and change – of grieving.

As we come to terms with loss and change, we may blame ourselves,
our Higher Power, or others. The person may be connected to the
loss, or he or she may be an innocent bystander. We've learned that
blame doesn't help. In recovery, the watchwords are self-responsibility
and personal accountability, not blame. Ultimately, surrender and
self-responsibility are the only concepts that can move us forward,
but to get there we may need to allow ourselves to feel angry and
to occasionally indulge in some blaming.

It is helpful, in dealing with others, to remember that they, too,
may need to go through their angry stage to achieve acceptance. To
not allow others, or ourselves, to go through anger and blame may
slow down the grief process.

We won't stay angry forever. But we may need to get mad for a
while as we search over what could have been, to finally accept
what is.