FEELINGS:

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Many of us have gotten so good at following the "don't feel" rule that
we can try to talk ourselves out of having feelings, even in recovery.

"If I was really working a good program, I wouldn't feel angry."

"I don't get angry. I'm a Christian. I forgive and forget."

Part of working a good program means acknowledging and dealing with
our feelings. We strive to accept and deal with our anger so it doesn't
harden into resentments.

Yes, we are striving for forgiveness, but we still want to feel, listen to,
and stay with our feelings until it is time to release them appropriately.
Our Higher Power created the emotional part of ourselves. The God of
our understanding is not telling us to not feel.

We also need to be careful how we use affirmations and denials; discounting
our emotions won't make feelings go away. If we're angry, it's okay to have
that feeling. That's part of how we get and stay healthy.