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We cannot afford to put our needs on hold, waiting for another person
to fulfill us, make our life better, or come around and be who and what
we want that person to be.

If we have decided we want a particular relationship or want to wait
about making a decision in a particular relationship, then we must go
on with our own life in the interim.

That can be hard. It can feel natural to put our life on hold.

That's a circumstance that can hook our low self-esteem.

We can get into this situation in a number of ways. We can do this
waiting for a letter, waiting for a job, waiting for a person, waiting for
an event.

What is something I could be doing now to take care of myself, make
myself feel better, get my needs met in an appropriate, healthy way?

Sometimes, we get the answer we want immediately. Sometimes, we
wait for a while. Sometimes, things don't work out exactly the way we
hoped. But they always work out for good, and often better than we
expected.

And in the meantime, we have manifested love for ourselves by living
our own life and taking the control away from others.

Stopping living our life to make a thing happen doesn't work. All it
does is make us miserable, because we have stopped living our life.