ACCEPANCE:

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So much of our anguish is created when we are in resistance. So much
relief, release, and change are possible when we accept, simply accept.

We waste our time, expend our energy, and make things harder by
resisting, repressing, and denying. Repressing our thoughts will not
make them disappear. Think it. Let it come into reality. Then release
it. A thought is not forever. If we don't like it, we can think another one
or change it. But to do that, we must accept and release the first thought.

We make life harder by resisting and repressing our feelings. No matter
how dark, how "inappropriate" we might deem our feelings, resisting and
repressing will not free us from them. They will swirl inside us, torment us,
make us sick, compel us to do compulsive things, keep us awake, or put us
to sleep.

In the final analysis, all that we're really called on to do is accept our
feeling.

Acceptance turns us into the person we are and want to be. Acceptance
empowers the events and circumstances to turn around for the better.

What do we do if we're in resistance, in a tug-of-war with some reality
in our life? Accepting our resistance can help us get through that too.

Acceptance does not mean we're giving our approval. It does not mean
surrendering to the will and plans of another. It does not mean
commitment. It is not forever. Acceptance does not mean we accept
abuse or mistreatment; it does not mean we forego ourselves, our
boundaries, hopes, dreams, desires, or wants. It means we accept what
is, so we know what to do to take care of ourselves and what boundaries
we need to set.

Acceptance and surrender – two concepts that hurt the most before we
do them.