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Recovery from codependency is an individual process that necessitates
making mistakes, struggling through problems, and facing tough issues.
Expecting ourselves to be perfect slows this process; it puts us in a guilty
and anxious state. Expecting others to be perfect is equally destructive;
it makes others feel ashamed and may interfere with their growth.
Expecting others to be perfect puts us in that codependent state of
moral superiority. Expecting ourselves to be perfect makes us feel rigid
and inferior.
We do not need to go to the other extreme, tolerating anything people
throw our way. We can still expect appropriate, responsible behavior
from ourselves. But most of us can afford to loosen up a bit.
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