PROVING IT TO OURSELVES:

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Trying to prove how good we are, trying to prove we're good enough,
trying to show someone how much he or she has hurt us, trying to show
someone we're understanding, are warning signs that we may be into our
self-defeating behaviors.

They can be a warning that we've allowed ourselves to get hooked into a
dysfunctional system. They may indicate that we're stuck in that cloudy
fog of denial or doing something that is not good for us.

Trying excessively to make a point with another may mean that we have
not yet made that point with ourselves. Once we make that point with
ourselves, once we understand, we will know what to do.

The issue is not about others understanding and taking us seriously. The
issue is not about others believing we're good and good enough. The issue is
not about others seeing and believing how responsible or loving or competent
we are. The issue is not about whether others realize how deeply we are
feeling a particular feeling. We are the ones that need to see the light.

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