DETACHMENT:

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The process of letting go can be confusing to many of us. When are we doing
too much or trying too hard to control situations and outcomes? When are
we doing too little? When is what we're doing an appropriate part of taking
care of ourselves? What is our responsibility, and what isn't?

These issues can challenge us whether we've been in recovery ten days or ten
years. Sometimes, we may let go so much that we neglect responsibility to
ourselves or others. Other times, we may cross the line from taking care of
ourselves to controlling others and outcomes.

There is no rule book. But we don't have to make ourselves crazy; we don't
have to be so afraid. We don't have to do recovery perfectly. If it feels like
we need to do a particular action, we can do it. If no action feels timely or
inspired, don't act on the situation.

Having and setting healthy boundaries – isn't a tidy process. We can give
ourselves permission to experiment, to make mistakes.

We can talk to people, ask questions and question ourselves. If there's
something we need to do or learn, it will become apparent. Lessons don't go
away. If we're not taking care of ourselves enough, we'll see that. If we are
being too controlling, we'll grow to understand that too.

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