CHARITY:

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We need healthy boundaries about receiving money, and we need healthy
boundaries about giving money.

We may be ashamed because we have money and don't believe we deserve it.
We may belong to an organization that uses shame as a form of control to
coerce us out of our money that the organization wants.

We can get hooked into giving money to our children, family members, or
friends because we have earned or unearned guilt. We allow ourselves to be
financially blackmailed, sometimes by the people we love.

Some of us give money out of a sense of caretaking, We may have exaggerated
feelings of responsibility for others, including financial responsibility.

Some of us give because we hope or believe people will love us if we take care
of them financially.

We do not have to give money to anyone. Giving money is our choice. We do
not have to allow ourselves to be victimized, manipulated, or coerced out of
our money. We are financially responsible for ourselves. Part of being healthy
is allowing those around us be financially responsible for themselves.

We do not have to be ashamed about having the money that we earn; we
deserve to have the money we have been given – whatever the amount,
without feeling obligated to give it all away, or guilty because others want
what we have.

Charity is a blessing. Giving is part of healthy living. We can learn to
develop healthy boundaries around giving.

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