DETACHMENT:

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Detachment doesn't come naturally for many of us. But once we
realize the value of this recovery principle, we understand how vital
detachment is.

"The first time I practiced detachment was when I let go of my
alcoholic husband. He had been drinking since I had married him. For
seven years, I had been denying his alcoholism and trying to make
him stop drinking.

"I did outrageous things to make him stop drinking, to make him see
the light, to make him realize how much he was hurting me. I really
thought I was doing things right by trying to control him.

"One night, I saw things clearly. I realized that my attempts to
control him would never solve the problem. I also saw that my life
was unmanageable. I couldn't make him do anything he didn't want
to do. His alcoholism was controlling me, even though I wasn't
drinking.

"I set him free, to do as he chose. The truth is, he did as he pleased
anyway. Things changed the night I detached. He could feel it, and so
could I. When I set him free, I set myself free to live my own life.

"I've had to practice the principle of detachment many times since
then. I've had to detach from unhealthy people and healthy people.
It's never failed. Detachment works."

Detachment is a gift. It will be given to us when we're ready for it.
When we set the other person free, we are set free.

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