Wednesday, August 20, 2008

DETACHMENT:

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The process of letting go can be confusing to many of us. When are
we doing too much or trying too hard to control situations and
outcomes? When are we doing too little? When is what we're doing
an appropriate part of taking care of ourselves? What is our
responsibility, and what isn't?

These issues can challenge us whether we've been in recovery ten
days or ten years. Sometimes, we may let go so much that we
neglect responsibility to ourselves or others. Other times, we may
cross the line from taking care of ourselves to controlling others and
outcomes.

There is no rule book. But we don't have to make ourselves crazy;
we don't have to be so afraid. We don't have to do recovery perfectly.
If it feels like we need to do a particular action, we can do it. If no
action feels timely or inspired, don't act on the situation.

Having and setting healthy boundaries – isn't a tidy process. We can
give ourselves permission to experiment, to make mistakes.

We can talk to people, ask questions and question ourselves. If
there's something we need to do or learn, it will become apparent.
Lessons don't go away. If we're not taking care of ourselves enough,
we'll see that. If we arebeing too controlling, we'll grow to understand
that too.

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