RELATIONSHIPS:

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As we progress through recovery, we learn we can no longer form
relationships solely on the basis of attraction. We learn to be patient,
to allow ourselves to take into account important facts, and to
process information about that person.

What we are striving for in recovery is a healthy attraction to people.
We allow ourselves to be attracted to who people are, not to their
potential or to what we hope they are.

The more we overcome our need to be excessive caretakers, the less
we will find ourselves attracted to people who need to be constantly
taken care of.

This is a slow process. We need to be patient with ourselves. The
type of people we find ourselves attracted to does not change
overnight. Being attracted to dysfunctional people can linger long
and well into recovery. That does not mean we need to allow it to
control us. The fact is, we will initiate and maintain relationships
with people we need to be with until we learn what it is we need to
learn – no matter how long we've been recovering.

We can stop blaming our relationships on God, and begin to take
responsibility for them. We can learn to enjoy the healthy
relationships, and remove ourselves more quickly from the
dysfunctional ones.

We can learn to look for what's good for us, instead of what's good for
the other person.

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