Some thoughts about recovery. * Take what you like and leave the rest.
~We can draw a healthy line, a healthy boundary, between ourselvesand our nuclear family. We can separate ourselves from their issues.Some of us may have family members who are addicted to alcoholand other drugs and who are not in recovery from their addiction.Some of us may have family members who have unresolvedcodependency issues. Family members may be addicted to misery,pain, suffering, martyrdom, and victimization.We may have family members who are addicted to work, eating, orsex. Our family may be completely enmeshed, or we may have adisconnected family in which the members have little contact.We may be like our family. We may love our family. But we areseparate human beings with individual rights and issues. One of ourprimary rights is to begin feeling better and recovering, whether ornot others in the family choose to do the same.Often when we begin taking care of ourselves, family members willreverberate with overt and covert attempts to pull us back into theold system and roles. We do not have to go. Their attempts to pullus back are their issues. Taking care of ourselves and becominghealthy and happy does not mean we do not love them. It meanswe're addressing our issues.We do not have to judge them because they have issues; nor do wehave to allow them to do anything they would like to us justbecause they are family.Web Stores:eCrater - http://wrhmcp.ecrater.com/Webidz - http://www.webidz.com/stores/WRHPolice ARDC – http://www.wrhmcp.comAtomic Mall - http://www.atomicmall.com/wrhmcp
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