Some thoughts about recovery. * Take what you like and leave the rest.
Many of us are skilled at denying and discounting what hurts us. Wemay endure a particular situation, telling ourselves repeatedly it'snot that bad; we shouldn't be so demanding; it'll change any day; weshould be able to live with it; it doesn't annoy us; the other persondidn't really mean it; it doesn't hurt; maybe it's just us.
Often we will tolerate too much or so much that we become furiousand refuse to tolerate any more.
We can learn to develop healthy tolerance.
We do that by setting healthy boundaries and trusting ourselves toown our power with people. We can work at shortening the timebetween identifying a need to set a boundary, and taking clear,direct action.
We aren't crazy. Some behaviors really do bug us. Some behaviorsreally are inappropriate, annoying, hurtful, or abusive.
We don't have to feel guilty or apologize or explain ourselves afterwe've set a boundary. We can learn to accept the awkwardness anddiscomfort of setting boundaries with people. We can establish ourrights to have these limits. We can give the other person room tohave and explore his or her feelings; we can give ourselves room tohave our feelings – as we struggle to own our power and creategood, working relationships.
Once we can trust our ability to take care of ourselves, we willdevelop healthy reasonable tolerance of others.
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