Friday, March 11, 2016

EXPERIMENT:


In our younger years, many of us were deprived of the
right to experiment. Many of us are depriving ourselves
of the right to experiment and learn as adults.

The time to experiment is now. It's an important part of
recovery. Let yourself try things. Let yourself try something
new. Yes, you will make mistakes. But from those mistakes,
you can learn what your values are.

Some things we just won't like. Then we'll know a little
more about who we are.

Some things we will like. They will work with who we are,
and we can discover something important and life-enriching.

There are quiet times in recovery, times to stand still and
heal, times to give ourselves a cooling-off period. These can
be times of introspection and healing.

There also comes a time when it is equally important to
experiment, to begin to "test the water."

Recovery means learning to live and learning to live fully.
Recovery means being done with the rigid, shame-based
rules from the past, and formulating healthy values based
on self-love, love for others, and living in harmony with
the world.

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Sunday, February 28, 2016

THE FLOW:


Picture yourself walking through a meadow. There is a
path opening before you. As you walk, you feel hungry.
Look to your left. There's a fruit tree in full bloom. Pick
what you need.

Steps later, you notice you're thirsty. On your right,
there's a fresh water spring.

When you are tired, a resting place emerges. When you
are lonely, a friend appears to walk with you. When you
get lost, a teacher with a map appears.

Before long, you notice the flow: need and supply;
desire and fulfillment. Maybe, you wonder, Someone
gave me the need because Someone planned to fulfill
it. Maybe I had to feel the need, so I would notice and
accept the gift. Maybe closing my eyes to the desire
closes my arms to its fulfillment.

Demand and supply, desire and fulfillment – a
continuous cycle, unless we break it. All the necessary
supplies have already been planned and provided for
this journey.

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Sunday, February 21, 2016

BALANCE:



Balance emotions with reason.

Combine detachment with doing our part.

Balance giving with receiving.

Alternate work with play.

Balance tending to our spiritual needs with
tending to our other needs.

Juggle responsibilities to others with
responsibilities to ourselves.

Balance caring about others with caring
about ourselves.

Whenever possible, let's be good to others,
but be good to ourselves too.

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Thursday, February 18, 2016

BACKLASH:


Backlash is a common reaction to new, recovery behaviors.
Anything to do with owning our power and taking care of
ourselves can trigger feelings of shame, guilt, and fear.

We do not have to allow these feelings to control us. They're
after-burn. Let them burn out.

Many of us grew up with shame-based messages that it
wasn't okay to take care of ourselves, be honest, be direct,
and own our power with people. Many of us grew up with
messages that it wasn't okay to be who we were and resolve
problems in relationships.

We don't have to take the backlash so seriously. We don't
have to let the after-burn convince us that we are wrong and
don't have a right to take care of ourselves and set boundaries.

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Wednesday, February 17, 2016

FEELINGS:


When someone says something negative about me. Are my
feelings hurt? (Yes/No) How do I overcome my hurt? By
detaching from the situation until I can figure out what is behind
it. If it was in retaliation for an unkindness I did, let me correct
my fault. If not, I have no responsibility in the matter.

Nothing can hurt me unless I allow it to. When I’m hurt by
anything that happens outside of myself, it is not that thing that
hurts me, but the way I think and feel about it.

Let me not suffer over, the actions and reactions of other people.
Other adult human beings are not my responsibility. I will not
allow myself to be troubled by anyone else. My responsibility is
to improve my own way of living and looking at life.

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Tuesday, February 16, 2016

CHILDREN ARE GIFTS:


Children are gifts. Our children, if we have children,
are a gift to us. We, as children, were gifts to our parents.

Sadly, many of us did not receive the message from our
parents that we were gifts to them and to the Universe.
Maybe our parents were in pain themselves; maybe our
parents were looking to us to be their caretakers; maybe
we came at a difficult time in their lives; maybe they had
their own issues and simply were not able to enjoy, accept,
and appreciate us for the gifts we are.

Many of us have a deep, sometimes subconscious, belief
that we were, and are, a burden to the world and the people
around us. This belief can block our ability to enjoy life
and our relationships with others. This belief can even
impair our relationship with a Higher Power.

We are not a burden, We never were. If we received that
message from ourparents, it is time to recognize that issue
as theirs to resolve.
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Sunday, February 14, 2016

WORRY "FAST":


What if we knew for certain that everything today
will work out fine?

What if, we had a guarantee that a problem bothering
us would be worked out in the most perfect way?
Furthermore, what if we knew that three years from
now we'd be grateful for that problem, and it's solution?

What if, we knew that even our worst fear would work
out for us?

What if, we had a guarantee that the people we love are
experiencing exactly what they need in order to become
who they're intended to become? Further, what if we had
a guarantee that others can be responsible for themselves,
and we don't have to control or take responsibility for them?

What if, we knew everything was okay, and we didn't have
to worry about a thing? What would we do then?

We'd be free to let go and enjoy life.

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