GETTING IT ALL OUT:

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Once we begin recovery, we may feel it's not okay to gripe and complain.
We may tell ourselves that if we were really working a good program, we
wouldn't need to complain.

We can let ourselves get our feelings out, take risks, and be vulnerable
with others. We don't have to be all put together, all the time. That sounds
more like codependency than recovery.

Getting it all out doesn't mean we need to be victims. It doesn't mean we
need to revel in our misery. It doesn't mean we won't go on to set
boundaries. It doesn't mean we won't take care of ourselves.

Sometimes, getting it all out is an essential part of taking care of
ourselves. We reach a point of surrender so we can move forward.

Self-disclosure does not mean only quietly reporting our feelings. It means
we occasionally take the risk to share our human side – the side with fears,
sadness, hurt, rage, unreasonable anger, weariness, or lack of faith.

We can let our humanity show. In the process, we give others permission
to be human too. "Together" people have their not-so-together moments.
Sometimes, falling apart – getting it all out – is how we get put back
together.

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