MARTYRS:

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Many of us have gone so numb and discounted our feelings so completely that
we have gotten out of touch with our needs in relationships.

We can learn to distinguish whose company we enjoy, Whether we're talking
about friends, business acquaintances, dates, or spouses. We all need to
interact with people we might prefer to avoid, but we don't have to force
ourselves through long-term or intimate relationships with these people.

We are free to choose friends, dates, spouses. We are free to choose how much
time we spend with those people we can't always choose to be around, such as
relatives. This is our life. We can decide how we want to spend our days and
hours. Not one of us is without options. Although we may have to struggle
through shame and learn to own our power, we can learn to spend our valuable
hours and days with people we enjoy and choose to be with.