Some thoughts about recovery. * Take what you like and leave the rest.
~Do you ever find yourself thinking: How could anyone possibly loveme? For many of us, this is a deeply ingrained belief that canbecome a self-fulfilling prophecy.Thinking we are unlovable can sabotage our relationships withco-workers, friends, family members, and other loved ones. Thisbelief can cause us to choose, or stay in, relationships that are lessthan we deserve because we don't believe we deserve better. Wemay become desperate and cling as if a particular person was ourlast chance at love. We may become defensive and push peopleaway. We may withdraw or constantly overreact.While growing up, many of us did not receive the unconditionallove we deserved. Many of us were abandoned or neglected byimportant people in our life. We may have concluded that thereason we weren't loved was because we were unlovable. Blamingourselves is an understandable reaction, but an inappropriate one.If others couldn't love us, or love us in ways that worked, that's notour fault. In recovery, we're learning to separate ourselves fromthe behavior of others. And we're learning to take responsibility forour healing regardless of the people around us.Just as we may have believed that we're unlovable, we can becomeskilled at practicing the belief that we are lovable. This new beliefwill improve the quality of our relationships. It will improve ourmost important relationship: our relationship with our self. We willbe able to let others love us and become open to the love andfriendship we deserve.Web Stores:eCrater - http://wrhmcp.ecrater.com/Webidz - http://www.webidz.com/stores/WRHPolice ARDC – http://www.wrhmcp.comAtomic Mall - http://www.atomicmall.com/wrhmcp
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