Some thoughts about recovery. * Take what you like and leave the rest.
Just as we have relationship histories, most of us have workhistories.
Just as we develop a healthy attitude toward our relationshiphistory – one that will help us learn and move forward – we candevelop a healthy attitude toward our work history.
I have worked at jobs I hated but was temporarily dependent on. Ihave gotten stuck in jobs because I was afraid to strike out on myown and find my next set of circumstances.
I have been in some jobs to develop skills. Sometimes, I didn't knowI was developing those skills until later when they became animportant part of the career of my choice.
I have worked at jobs where I have felt victimized, where I felt likeI gave and gave and received nothing in return. I have been inrelationships where I manufactured similar feelings.
I have worked at some jobs that have taught me what I absolutelydidn't want; others sparked in me an idea of what I really did wantand deserve in my career.
Some of my jobs have helped me develop character; others havehelped me fine-tune skills. They have all been a place to practicerecovery behaviors.
Just as I have needed to clear the wreckage of feelings about pastrelationships, I have needed to finish my business with jobs andcareers.
I have learned something from each job, and my work history hashelped create who I am.
I learned something else: there was a Plan, and I was being led. Themore I trusted my instincts, what I wanted, and what felt right, themore I felt that I was being led.
The more I refused to lose my soul to a job and worked at itbecause I wanted to and not for the paycheck, the less victimized Ifelt by any career, even those jobs that paid a meager salary. Themore I set goals and took responsibility for achieving the career Iwanted, the more I could decide whether a particular job fit intothat scheme of things. I could understand why I was working at aparticular job and how that was going to benefit me.
There are times I have panicked at work an about where I was inmy employment history. Panic never helped. Trust and workingmy program did.
There were times I looked around and wondered why I was whereI was. There were times people thought I should be someplacedifferent. But when I looked into myself and at God, I knew I was inthe right place, for the moment.
There were times I didn't get the promotion I wanted. There weretimes I refused a promotion because it didn't feel right.
There are times I have to quit a job and walk away in order to betrue to myself. Sometimes, that was frightening. Sometimes, I feltlike a failure. But I learned this: If I was working my program andtrue to myself, I never had to fear where I was being led.
I've learned that I'm not stuck or trapped in a job no more than Iam in a relationship. I have choices. I may not be able to see themclearly right now, but I do have choices. I've learned that if I reallywant to take care of myself in a particular way on a job, I will dothat. And if I really want to be victimized by a job, I will allow thatto happen too.
Above all else, I've learned to accept and trust my presentcircumstances at work. That does not mean to submit; it does notmean to forego boundaries. It means to trust, accept, then takecare of myself the best I'm able to on any given day.
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