THE UNMANAGEABLE SIDE:

By the time we get to the Fourth of the
Twelve Steps, we are ready to face our

unmanageable side, the side that
prevents us from loving ourselves and
others, from letting others love us, and
from enjoying life. One of the

purposes of Step Four is not to make
ourselves feel worse; our purpose is to
start to remove our blocks to joy and
love. We also can't forget to search for
our positive traits as well.

We look for fears, anger, hurt, and
shame from past events – buried
feelings that may be affecting our life
today. We search for subconscious
beliefs about ourselves and others
that may be interfering with the
quality of our relationships. These
beliefs say: I'm not lovable … I'm a
burden to those around me … People
can't be trusted … I can't be trusted
… I don't deserve to be happy and
successful … Life isn't worth living.

We look at our behaviors and
patterns with an eye toward
discerning the self-defeating ones.
With love and compassion for
ourselves, we try to unearth all our
guilt – earned and unearned – and
expose it to the light.

We can perform this examination
without fear of what we shall find,
because this soul-searching can
cleanse us and help us feel better
about ourselves than we ever
dreamt possible.

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