SADNESS:

In the past, we told ourselves many
things to deny the pain: It doesn't hurt

that much … Maybe if I just wait, things
will change … It's no big deal. I can get
through this … Maybe if I try to change
the other person, I won't have to change
myself.

We denied that it hurt because we didn't
want to feel the pain.

Unfinished business doesn't go away. It
keeps repeating itself, until it gets our
attention, until we feel it, deal with it,
and heal. That's one lesson we are
learning in recovery from codependency
and adult children issues.

Many of us didn't have the tools, support,
or safety we needed to acknowledge and
accept pain in our past. It's okay. We're
safe now. Slowly, carefully, we can begin
to open ourselves up to our feelings. We
can begin the process of feeling what we
have denied so long – not to blame, not to
shame, but to heal ourselves in
preparation for a better life.

It's okay to cry when we need to cry and
feel the sadness many of us have stored
within for so long. We can feel and release
these feelings.

Grief is a cleansing process. It's an
acceptance process. It moves us from our

past, into today, and into a better future –
a future free of sabotaging behaviors, a
future that holds more options than our
past.

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