RECOVERY:

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Often, our accusations are justified. We probably are feeling hurt
and frustrated. In these moments, we may begin to believe that
the solution to our pain and frustration is getting the other person
to do what we want. But these self-defeating illusions put the
power and control of our life in other people's hands.

The solution to our pain and frustration, however valid, is to
acknowledge our own feelings. We feel the anger, the grief; then
we let go of the feelings and find peace – within ourselves.

Then we decide that although we'd like our situation to be
different, maybe our life is happening this way for a reason.

Then we decide what we need to do, what is within our power to
do to take care of ourselves. That's called recovery.

It's easy to point our finger at another, but it's more rewarding to
gently point it at ourselves.